Sunday, December 28, 2025

La Rue Bijou - Here's to Hope & A Meaningful Life in 2026






Downtown Gainesville, Fla., lights at Christmas


New Year’s Day . . . A time for reflection.

 Many of us could look back on 2025 as a bleak year filled with challenges. But instead, we plan to focus on accomplishments—connections developed with family, friends and neighbors, time spent in nature, compassion shown to those in need and small steps that make a difference.  

 In her final message to the world, primatologist and conservationist Jane Goodall said “even today, when the planet is dark, there is still hope.” She reminds us that our lives matter. That we can make a difference by starting with small, positive actions. That we need to show compassion and respect for all living things. That we maintain hope.

 “If you lose hope, you become apathetic and do nothing. . . If you want to save the planet for the future generations. . . then think about the actions you can take each day.” (Goodall).

 Author and editor Tiffany Yates Martin has echoed these sentiments in her posts to the writing community.

“Perhaps this holiday season will mark a new awakening for humanity where we remember what connects us and that we are more like than we are different, and we begin treating one another as the brothers and sisters we are, with respect and decency. . . .None of it can ever happen if we can’t imagine the hope of it.” (Martin)

NHS psychotherapist Moya Sarner reminds us to focus on positive contributions. “We all have the capacity for creativity and growth. Hold on to this potential when life seems bleak.” (Sarner)

 Research, too, has shown that more hopeful individuals have better health, more resilience and less anxiety. Furthermore, studies suggest, “Those who feel more hopeful tend to also see life as more meaningful.” (Hopper)

 In a recent column for The Guardian, author James Bailey has asked numerous individuals about the meaning of life. Palliative care consultant Kathryn Mannix advises us to “rejoice” in the range of experiences and emotions as “part of our experience of being fully alive.” Holocaust survivor Susan Polllack writes of the “kindness and goodwill” that transcended horrific events. And retired British javelin thrower Fatima Whitbread reminds us, “If you add value to other people’s lives, you’ll never be at a loss for living a life of purpose.” (Bailey)

 

 


     Rainbow near Grasse, France (photo courtesy of SSR) 

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Works cited 

Bailey, James. “What is the Meaning of Life? 15 Possible Answers—From a Palliative Care Doctor, a Holocaust Survivor, a Jail Inmate and more.” The Guardian. 22 March 2025.

https://www.theguardian.com/books/2025/mar/22/what-is-the-meaning-of-life-15-possible-answers-from-a-palliative-care-doctor-a-holocaust-survivor-a-jail-inmate-and-more. Accessed 27 December 2025.

This article is an extract from The Meaning of Life: Letters from Extraordinary People and their Answer to Life’s Biggest Question, edited by James Bailey, April 2025.

Hopper, Elizabeth. “How Hope Helps Us Build a Meaningful Life.” Greater Good Magazine. 22 July 2025. https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_hope_helps_us_build_a_meaningful_life. Accessed 27 December 2025.

Goodall, Jane. Interview with Brad Falchuk (March 2025). “In an Exclusive Interview, Dr. Jane Goodall Leaves Behind Her Last Words.” Netflix Tudum. 3 October 2025. https://www.netflix.com/tudum/articles/jane-goodall-famous-last-words-documentary. Accessed 20 October 2025.

Martin, Tiffany Yates. “Hope for the Holidays.” Foxprint Editorial. 25 December 2025. https://mailchi.mp/foxprinteditorial/hope. Accessed 25 December 2025.

Sarner, Moya. “Do You Feel Hopeless About Humanity? Look For the Good Things—And Build A Bridge Toward Them.” The Guardian. 13 January 2025. https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2025/jan/13/do-you-feel-hopeless-about-humanity-look-for-the-good-things-and-build-a-bridge-towards-them?lid=b860goeunv00&utm_source=EMAIL&utm_medium=email_marketing&utm_campaign=MK_SU_USEOYHope261225&utm_term=Email_RecurringUSB&utm_content=Email_RecurringUSB. Accessed 26 December 2025.

Moya Sarner is an NHS psychotherapist and the author of When I Grow Up – Conversations With Adults in Search of Adulthood

 

 

 

Thursday, December 25, 2025

La Rue Bijou - Merry Christmas!






A Christmas card by Florida artist Margaret Ross Tolbert  





Santa's helper 

                                                                                  

                                The pickle is supposed to bring good luck or at 

                                        least an extra gift for the finder

 

          
 
 Florida decor--from the "boot" of a cabbage palm
 
 
 

 A palm tree in South Beach, a few years ago
 
 
 

 A child's joy shared with family members, sporting Christmas socks. . . . 
 

A favorite Christmas story along with 
 
A Christmas Carol 
 
 
 


 Handmade Christmas wishes 
 
 
 
 

 Nativity 

 
 

         

Saturday, December 20, 2025

La Rue Bijou - When did Naughty or Nice Become Part of the Holiday Tradition?


 

 

Recently, when the grandkids and I finished a boardgame, the 10-year-old grandson teased the 5-year old, calling him “evil” because he wanted to win the game.  

Tears formed in his eyes.

“I’m not evil.”

He seemed unusually upset. But given the message in the song “Santa Claus is Coming to Town” and the omniscient Elf perched overhead, children can’t afford to make one slip-up! The naughty ones are punished with switches and ashes, and the nice children are rewarded with gifts. 

 


Many of us have heard Santa Claus originated with a fourth-century individual, known for his generosity to children. The feast day of Saint Nicholas is celebrated on Dec. 6. 

Religious, pagan and commercial holidays became conflated in the Christmas celebration as we know it today. 

But what is the origin of naughty or nice that causes my younger grandson so much anguish? 

In an article in History.Com, Becky Little writes, “Krampus and St. Nick’s other bad boys have their origins in pagan celebrations of the winter solstice. Later, they became part of Christian traditions in which St. Nicholas visited children to reward them on December 5 or 6. Around that time, his menacing partner would also visit kids to punish them.” 

 The inception of punishment is unclear. Saint Nicholas, accompanied by a devil-like figure, emerged in Germany and Central and Eastern European countries ("Krampus," Wikipedia). 

Santa Claus, as we have come to know him in the States, originated with the 1823 poem by Clement Moore, “A Visit from St. Nick.” A “right jolly old elf.” And naughty or nice? Growing up, my sister only knew of it from the song, “Santa Claus Is Coming To Town.” 


 

To date—because belief in Santa has continued throughout our lives--we have never received ashes or switches. The concept of "naughty or nice" provides a humorous take on the gift-giving tradition. But maybe when I was a 5-year-old child, the thought of an omnipresent and omniscient elf, always listening and reporting back to Santa, would have frightened me too. 

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                                                                Works Cited 

“Krampus.” Wikipedia. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Krampus. Accessed 18 December 2025. 

 Little, Becky. “Meet Krampus, The Christmas Devil Who Punishes Naughty Children.”History. 5 December 2018 (Updated 2 March 2025). https://www.history.com/articles/krampus-christmas-legend-origin. Accessed 12 December 2025.